Saturday, 6 September 2014

"How to be me"

side note, this is not an incredibly self-righteous post about how to be the perfection "bitch please" (blatant sarcasm that hopefully didn't need to be identified but now that I have - just roll with it) that is me... think of it more as a little note to myself as to how to just suck up the fact that I am who I am. Hopefully without all the soppy crap too. ALSO big up to Caitlin Moran for giving me these sudden realisations. She is my female queen, yes, I rate her more highly than queen Bey... #nohate. Seeing her at the Cheltenham Literature Festival, gahhhhhhhh

1. Suck it up. You're different. You have genetics that make you that way and it's totally out of your control. So stop hiding away and being too quiet to speak. You are a funny, out-going and vivacious person, let everyone see that side to you. 

2. DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS. You are so unlike those people on the telly, and the airbrushed beauties on glossy magazines, that you really shouldn't try to live like them or put yourself down when you put on an extra pound and your thighs look like two tree trunks when you sit down and your jeans wear through far too quickly from the friction of those trunks getting all friendly with one another. 

3. You like food. Amen, the mothership, the god (aka, cake). It's fine. Food is great and you should be grateful that you have the ability to buy/taste/munch on all the good stuff. Just because you talk about food in every other sentence doesn't make you have an "issue" with food. It just means that you're a simple little soul and you take note of the little things in life - or in my case the big batch of brownies that I've just delved in to. 

4. Your face ain't symmetrical and that's fine. Let's face (ironic) it, I don't have to see it all the time - that's all your problem... Your 6th and 7th cranial nerves aren't there girl, never have been and never will be. You don't have the muscles on your face to physically do all the things that most other's can. But who actually gives a monkey's? Oh wait, yes, ONLY YOU. Well stop. Ain't nobody got time for that!

5. Laugh more and worry less. Life is whatever you make it, why spend it being all down in the dumps. Just chill out and take things with a pinch of salt. Whatever you can't change just make the most of/work it. Also, stop listening to depressing songs because they do in fact make you feel like shit. Yep, that does mean deleting all the 'hidden' sad playlists on your spotify...

Basically, just live and smile - because even a wonky smile is better than none at all. 

Friday, 22 August 2014

Pearls of perseverance

I love analogies, I think they can really help us to understand situations that otherwise we may struggle to. At the moment I'm reading a self-help book suggested to me by my GP and on the first page it gave me one of the most insightful and thought-provoking analogies I've heard. It's really opened my eyes as to how you can really change how you think and look at situations in your life. 

As we all know, an oyster creates a pearl - one of the most cherished and beautiful creations of nature. Yet, a pearl's life begins as a simple grain of sand that does nothing but irritate the oyster. As a response to the discomfort, the oyster itself creates a smooth and protective coating that both encases the sand and provides relief to the oyster. And as a result, a breath-taking pearl is created. For the oyster. what once was something unbearably uncomfortable provided the seed for something new to begin. 

I guess what this is trying to tell is that with every negative experience, pain or discomfort we feel there is always something beautiful to be learned from it. It also shows how we have the potential within ourselves to change and to feel better. So keep going because no matter what, we will always find our own pearl in life, always.

Thursday, 21 August 2014

Tweezerman Mini Slant: Initial thoughts.

These tweezers have changed my life. Okay, maybe a little melodramatic, but they are seriously incredible and have changed the way that I care for my eyebrows. My mum has always had the job of tweezing my brows, and she's never been an expert in the subject - she always did the job though (sorry mum...). With being at university it just became inconvenient for her to do it whenever they needed a bit of plucking.

I've never invested in a good pair of tweezers, instead opting for the cheap ones you get in sets at christmas or the bargain ones from Boots. However, after watching Anna's (ViviannaDoesMakeup) 'Brow 101' I knew the Tweezerman's had to be an addition to my makeup bag. They vary in prices ranging from £12.50 to £20.95. I have the 'Tweezerman Mini Slant's' which are £12.50 in Boots - Anna says they're just as good as the more expensive ones and so I would 100% agree that they are incredible. I'm not saying that I am now the expert plucker - I'm definitely not! I'm still experimenting with my shaping and making them even (it's much harder than it would seem), but I am getting there. I would not be anywhere near to this without these little bad-boys. They pick up hairs so easily and seem to get all those nasty little ones and the thicker beasts that seem to take over your face - you know what I'm talking about!

Monday, 18 August 2014

The British Tag

I've seen everyone and their grandmother do this 'tag' on the internet (everyone who is British that it...) over the past few weeks and so I thought - why not? It was originally created by Sammi,.aka Beautycrush, and I thought it was about time that I celebrated our little Isle. 

1. How many cups of tea do you have a day & how many sugars?
It very much depends on the type of day/weather/mood - it has lots of variables. But on your average day about 2 or 3. The same thing happens with sugar, but my favourite kind of tea is with two (don't judge) sugars. I love a good cuppa!

2. What is your favourite part of a Sunday roast dinner?
The veg! I've actually not heard many people say that. But I'm obsessed with cabbage and kale, carrots, peas... ugh I need a roast now :( I love every part of a roast though really - apart from pigs in blankets, far too salty! *Side note* My mum makes the best roast potatoes/roast dinner in general.

3. What is your favourite dunking biscuit?
It's got to be a custard cream - the cheaper the better. I enjoy the challenge of getting it dunked and to my mouth without it falling to pieces. Yes, I know... I need to get a life!

4. What is your favourite quintessentially British pastime?
There's a few so get comfortable. I love a good old moan. I love people watching, especially old men - really old because they melt my heart. Going for winter walks is always pretty high on my list of things to do. Okay,  so there weren't as many as I'd anticipated. How awkward. OH talking of that. I love sarcasm - British sarcasm is something that is just hilarious and gah - that's my favourite for sure!

5. What's your favourite word?
(I did just google British words for this) "Buggered" is by far my favourite word. I use all the time when I'm on the cusp of swearing and with my accent really pronouncing the "R" it's even funnier.  

6. Do you know any cockney rhyme slang?
My knowledge on this is extremely limited. I think I could stretch to "Up the apple's and pear's" for stairs, and "Dog and bone" for phone. That's about all I've got.

7. What is your favourite sweet?
I just love them. When I was younger I'd go out with my friends and eat about four packets of them - one after another. I do have a massive sweet tooth though and so limiting myself in this way was a definite challenge.

8. What would your pub be called?
"The Regal Rose" - it's simple, to the point and doesn't sound like every other joe bloggs pub (aka 'The King's Head or the 'White Horse'

9.Who is your #1 British person?
Celebrity-wise it would have the be my Queen - more commonly known as Adele. Non celebrity-wise, it would have to be my Grandad - he's just the best (closely followed by my Nan)!

10. What's your favourite shop?
I'm obsessed with the quaint little home-ware shops that you find on a whim and can't resist buying something lovely - and usually unnecessary - to fill a little space in your house that you didn't know was there until then.  

11. What British song pops into your head?
'Hey Jude' by The Beatles. I actually love The Beatles and this is such a great one to just belt out every now and again when the mood is right - or even when it isn't.

12. Do you like Marmite?
No (not even dignifying that with an explanation).

I anyone who wants to do this. If you do it, or have done it - leave a comment with a link and I'd love to have a look at it! xxx

Sunday, 17 August 2014

A little ramble about worry

I'm a thinker. A deep thinker; a philosophical thinker. Some may say a worrier. I would agree. I have two states of mind when it comes to these type of things, I fret about everything or nothing at all. Even when I'm in the latter frame of mind it's not because I'm as cool as a cucumber (another metaphor, help). It's usually because I have spent so much time thinking and over-thinking, playing and replaying, that I work myself in to oblivion. Like a computer that has overheated I just shut down.

I need to learn to stop. Otherwise it's not going to leave me in a very stable place for later life, and let's be real - ain't nobody got time for that! So I need to come up with some strategies to help me overcome this because, as this trusty pinterest quote states, worrying does not stop the things you worry about from happening. 

The biggest issue for me is that I am both a hopeless optimist and crippling realist all at the same time. I need to find a happy medium in there somewhere but I'm just a it unsure as to how? I know that it's good to have dreams, hopes, ambitions. I also know that you have to live in reality. That's a tricky balance to find. 

That just made me think about the quote by Les Brown, "Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss you'll land amongst the stars". What does that even mean? I kind of see it as, if you want something then just try because no matter what at least you'll be happy. I like that thought. I find myself worrying about other people's opinions of me, or the ideals that they place upon me. But truly what gives anyone, but you, the right to say how you should lead your life or what direction you should follow.

Geez, time for another quote. Are you ready?! "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent", by the one and only Eleanor Roosevelt. It's so fitting to what I'm saying. Why should anyone else decide what you believe, strive for, or dream of. Of course, everyone is entitled to their opinion. However, with that opinion you can choose to do as you wish. Just like your life. Did you see that word, "you're". 

So I think what I've discovered from this is that I need to go at my own pace. After all, the hare did not win the race. I've also found out that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, and if like me you spend your time worrying about being judged or looked down upon - don't. It's your life. Yours.  

Saturday, 16 August 2014


Hello, so I've been gone for a while and I really have no reason - I just haven't really felt like writing. I feel so out of the loop with the whole thing and so even writing this feels a little odd (to say the least). There's still not a lot that has changed; I'm still on my summer break from Uni. It's about a month today or something until I go back now. I've been really 'umm-ing' and 'ahh-ing' about how I feel to be going back. My conclusion is that it'll be nice to get back to doing things and it'll give me a chance to get to know new people etc. I learnt a lot from my last year there and so I'm expecting to go back like a little wise owl, maybe. 

I've been doing a lot of thinking about lots of things. One of them being what exactly I want 'Jemma In Words' to be. Don't get me wrong I do like to dabble in a bit of everything and it's nice to pool all of my interests together. But it was gtting to the stage where I was posting everyday just because. I was looking for things to write about in the minutest details of life's fabric - that's not necessarily a bad thing, I just want to make it this place a little more 'Jemma'. I don't know, I'm just babbling. Do any of you know what I'm talking about/feel the same?

I think what I'm trying to say is that I would like my little space on the internet to stand out a bit more, be a bit more unique and just something that I can be as proud as a peach about (I know, I know... worst metaphor ever - but you get my idea)... And here'th ends my ramble. If you're still reading then I'm, again, proud as a peach... 

*SPOILER ALERT* I had to google the difference between a Metaphor and a Simile - my old english lecutrer would kill me #sorry

Tuesday, 12 August 2014

21.07.1951 - 11.08.2014

I'm guessing you've all heard the sad news of Robin Williams' passing. I think it's shocked the world in a way that I haven't really seen in a celebrity death before. I've seen, just from my facebook, that so many are completely devastated by the loss of a comedy, and acting hero - myself included. The main thing that's really gotten to me is that I hope he knew how much he was loved.

Having battled with depression for many years myself personally, I know how lonely and isolating it can be. You can feel like you are completely on your own. It's like there is a tunnel ahead of you, but there's no ending and no light. Everything ahead of you is darkness and pain. The depths of a persons depression is never something to be underestimated.

Robin Williams was, and will always be, the greatest comedic actor of our time. All we can hope is that he is in a better place, pain-free and watching over those who he loved. We are all so lucky to have shared his sparky personality and intuitive humour. I hope he rests easy, wherever he is. 

What are your favourite films of his? I adore Mrs Doubtfire - just brilliant!